Archive for July, 2014

The Gulf Oil Spill: Capturing the Passion

Tuesday, July 29th, 2014

Guest Author: Linda Crotta Brennan

fsfsdfMany people think nonfiction is dry and boring. Not so! When I write nonfiction, I don’t just want to make readers think, I want to make them feel. Like when I wrote a scene describing the first time Dian Fossey’s beloved gorilla Peanuts reached out to touch her, or when I described Mother Bickerdyke telling the Civil War doctor that she was going into that tent to treat her “boys” whether he gave her permission or not. If he threw her out one door, she’d come in another…

But before I can hook into the emotions of my readers, I have to connect with my material as a writer. When I first got the assignment for History’s Greatest Disasters: The Gulf Oil Spill, I wasn’t sure how to approach it. The environment is something I’m passionate about, but how could I share that passion in a book about drilling and oil?

I try to be diligent in my accuracy, kids deserve no less. So before I started nnnto write, I slogged through technical books, struggling to understand exactly how to drill a well into a sea bed two miles below the surface. I waded through the government investigation into what caused the blowout of the Deepwater Horizon Oil Rig on April 22, 2010 (which ironically was the 40th anniversary of Earth Day).

As I was reading the transcripts from the inquiry, I came upon testimony from supervisor Randy Ezell describing the events leading up to the blowout. One of his most trusted men, Jason Andersen, had told him to go take a break and sent him off to eat. A little while later, Randy Ezell got a frantic call from another man on the drill floor, Steve Curtis, telling him that the well had blown out. Ezell was horrified. “Do y’all have it shut in?” he asked. “Jason is shutting it in now,” Curtis replied. “Randy, we need your help.”

Suddenly it hit me. Jason Andersen and Steve Curtis were two of the eleven men who never made it out. I sat at my computer and sobbed, knowing somehow I had to do justice to those hardworking men, and to the ecological disaster they tried to stop at the cost of their lives.

About Author:

Linda Crotta Brennan is the author of over twenty books for young readers, including History’s Greatest Disasters: The Gulf Oil Spill. Some of her other award-winning titles are When Rivers Burned: The Earth Day Story and The Black Regiment of the American Revolution. She’s also a contributor to the American Notable Women series. To find out more about Linda and her books, visit her website at www.lindacrottabrennan.com and her blog at http://lcbrennan.blogspot.com/.

10 Books That Will Make You Laugh Out Loud

Friday, July 25th, 2014

Author: Sherry Helms

They say laughter is the best medicine. It is scientifically proven that laughing not only relieves physical tension and stress but also boost our immune system. So, in order to give you good and hearty chuckle, we scanned our bookstore and came across with these 10 book titles. Some of these books are old, some new – some are for young readers and some for slightly older- but all humorous reads and will surely make you laugh out loud.

Just Enough Jeeves Right Ho, Jeeves; Joy in the Morning; Very Good, Jeeves by  P.G. Wodehouse

Just Enough Jeeves Right Ho, Jeeves; Joy in the Morning; Very Good, Jeeves by  P.G. Wodehouse

The obscenely hilarious comedy stories in P.G. Wodehouse book, Just Enough Jeeves Right Ho, Jeeves; Joy in the Morning; Very Good, Jeeves by P.G. will give you many uncontrollable belly laughs. It contains two novels and a set of short stories each starts out with dim young aristocrat Bertie and his omniscient manservant, Jeeves. If you are still unfamiliar with P.G. Wodehouse work and want to read something that will make you laugh out loud, this is a brilliant place to start.

Catch-22 by Joseph Heller

Catch-22

Considered as one of the most celebrated and funniest novels of all time, Catch-22 is the story of the unparalleled, U.S. Army Air Force B-25 bombardier John Yossarian, who along with his fellow airmen in the camp attempted to keep their sanity with the intention of fulfilling their service requirements so that they may go back home. However, this satirical book by the American author Joseph Heller received no awards upon release, it has named as the best American novel written in the 20th century.

Let’s Pretend This Never Happened A Mostly True Memoir by  Jenny Lawson

Let's Pretend This Never Happened A Mostly True Memoir by  Jenny LawsonYou’ll perhaps want to read this book in private as multiple parts of this book will give you impulsive maniacal laughter. The book skims through a series of humorous scenes, giving an intimate view of Lawson’s most terribly and remarkably human moments, causing readers to chuckle and cringe at the same moment.

The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams

The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy

A book like no other, The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy shows always to look on the bright side of life. It teaches how you can laugh even in the face of death and destruction. The story revolves around Arthur Dent, totally normal English guy, who is thrust into a seriously gigantic situation that he’s totally unprepared for. This sci-fi book, packed full of adventure and humor, helps the hero and us to learn that no matter how bad or absurd things or conditions get, you can always laugh.

A Confederacy of Dunces, John Kennedy Toole

A Confederacy of Dunces, John Kennedy TooleWritten in the 1960s, but published in 1980 by Louisiana State University Press, A Confederacy of Dunces is an American comic masterpiece chronicles the story of Ignatius J. Reilly, a lazy 30-year-old man who lives with his mother in New Orleans. The novel earned a posthumous Pulitzer Prize for fiction in the year 1981 and sold more than 1.5m copies in print all over the world and has been published in 18 languages. 

Me Talk Pretty One Day by David Sedaris

Me Talk Pretty One Day by David Sedaris

Bestselling author of “Naked”, David Sedaris again with his witty writing proves that he is probably the funniest writer in America. In his fourth book, Me Talk Pretty One Day by David Sedaris, humorist and essayist, Sedaris talks about the loss of language and recommends that the inability to express oneself articulately is equivalent to absurdity. The book contains a number of humorous stories that guaranteed to make you laugh so hard for so long.

Wilt by Tom Sharpe

Wilt by Tom Sharpe

First published in 1976 by Secker and Warburg, Wilt is a humorous novel by author Tom Sharpe revolving around the titular character, Henry Wilt. Wilt us an unfortunate assistant lecturer at Fenland College of Arts & Technology who is physically tortured and mentally harassed by his emotionally immature but physically powerful wife, Eva. And to get rid of her wife, he plans to kill her. Throughout the story, Wilt finds embarrassment and chaos, which at last lead him to find and understand his own power. Rich in humor and filled with hilarious twists, this funny novel will never let you to put down the book for a second.

Company by Max Barry

Company by Max Barry

Company is a fast-paced rough black comedy about the corporate management and office politics. The novel starts with a new employee, Stephen Jones, who enters into the corporate world after finishing his graduation. He meets there with co-workers and after a few days of his joining realize that he has no idea who its customers really are. All the characters are extremely funny that will give you a belly laugh for sure.

In a Sunburned Country by Bill Bryson

In a Sunburned Country

Best known writer of humorous books, Bill Bryson will never disappoint you through his writing. You will enjoy his adventures in the land of extremes, i.e. Australia and his wonderful and comic descriptions of his views on Canberra, his representation of a cricket match and the trouble he faced in a hotel in Darwin. He not only makes you laugh-out-loud with his fantastic and amusing descriptions but also amazes you with loads of interesting information he presented about the geology, ecology, history and folklore of Australia, and several unknown aspects of Australian life.

The Eyre Affair: A Thursday Next Novel by Jasper FfordeThe Eyre Affair A Thursday Next Novel

Packed with literary references, The Eyre Affair by Jasper Fforde is a funny, freaking hysterical tale set in an alternate universe, a place where books are living things. The author has marvelously and creatively put the name of his characters and situations. Published in 2000, this playfully irreverent, childishly sensational and extremely imaginative was Fforde’s first novel.

If you have any other book/s to add to the list, or if you’ve enjoyed any of the above mentioned books, share them in the comments.

The Industrial Diet: The Degradation of Food and the Struggle for Healthy Eating

Wednesday, July 23rd, 2014

Guest author:  Anthony Winson

 Winson twitter imageIf you are like me, you have spent plenty of time in supermarkets and other food environments surrounded by edible products and tremendously frustrated that few of them were the least bit healthy to eat. And the more you know about the link between nutrition and your health the more frustrated you are likely to be. It’s not surprising if you have wondered how food environments came to be contaminated (an appropriate word I believe) with so many edible products that basically undermine our health, even if they might provide momentary sensory satisfaction. The world has become flooded with these poor nutrition pseudo foods, whether you live in Minneapolis, Montreal, Mexico City or Mumbai. My book The Industrial Diet seeks to help us understand how this came about, the forces promoting the proliferation of pseudo foods across the globe and the enormous health implications of this. The book also explores the emergent struggles to counter this expanding nutritional disaster and promote healthy and sustainable eating.

Writing this book was a real learning experience for me, even though new industrialI thought I already knew a lot about food. After all, I had been writing about agriculture, agribusiness and food for quite a few years. But food is one of the most complex topics imaginable and writing The Industrial Diet required an in-depth mining of the literature of a variety of disciplines. It also required thinking of new ways of conceptualizing what is happening to food. Food for a long time now has been a commodity, to be bought and sold for profit, but it is also what I have called “The Intimate Commodity”, so essential is it for our very existence. But with country after country now experiencing the enormous health impacts of population-wide weight gain and obesity, its necessary to take a hard look at mass diets and how they have been shaped and degraded by the industrialization of whole foods over the last century or so. The production of food products has been “sped up” in the interest of increasing monetary returns to processors, while at the same time whole foods have been simplified by the food industry in ways that are likely having serious implications for our health. And then there is adulteration. Whole foods have been massively adulterated in the industrial diet, and we now increasingly speak of “addictive” food products. 

Food does not have to be degraded in the ways it has, but it’s going to take a much better understanding of the state of our food system and a massive concerted effort to turn things around. Fortunately there are some very hopeful signs that dedicated food activists are having some success in doing just that.

About Author:

Anthony Winson’s research and publications have focused on agriculture, agrarian development, and food and health issues related to Canada and the Third World.  In addition to The Industrial Diet, he is the author of the following books: Coffee and Democracy in Modern Costa Rica (1989); The Intimate Commodity: Food and the Development of the Agro-Industrial Complex in Canada (1993); and more recently  Contingent Work, Disrupted Lives: Labour and Community in the New Rural Economy, (2002, with Belinda Leach). You can learn more about his work by visiting theindustrialdiet.com

The Red Canary

Monday, July 21st, 2014

Guest Author: Tim Birkhead

Tim Birkhead Portrait-34, credit Ben CherryI am a scientist and I love birds. I have spent my career studying birds in various parts of the world. As a boy, I had an aviary full of birds but I also watched wild birds. Those two strands one captive, one wild, were my ornithological apprenticeship. Keeping birds gets you close to them and helps you understand the way they work.

Keeping birds is no longer really pc, but just over a century ago every other house in Britain and much of the continent would have contained one or more cage birds. Bird keepers were (and still are) men in sheds. Working class men usually, who because they spend a lot of time with their birds often know more than professional ornithologists about certain aspects of bird biology.

The Red Canary is the story of how in the 1920s a scientist school-The Red Canaryteacher, Hans Dunker, teamed up with Karl Reich a shop-keeper who kept and bred birds as a hobby, to create a brand new bird, a red canary. I loved the idea of these two men from such different backgrounds combining their knowledge and enthusiasm to generate something utterly novel.

Their meeting was extraordinary. Walking through the streets of Bremen, Germany one late summer day in 1921 Hans Dunker hears the song of a nightingale. He’s mystified: a nightingale, in town? And in late summer? This is weird for nightingales are woodland birds that sing only in spring.

He investigates and discovers that it is a canary singing a nightingale song – a nightingale-canary created by bird-breeder Karl Reich. It is the start of a wonderful collaboration and a long hard slog to create what in the early 20th century many considered impossible: a red canary. This is the story of how they created what is essentially the first genetically modified organism, using the most basic technologies.

About Author:

Tim has written thirteen books, some academic, some popular science. The Red Canary was awarded The Consul Cremer Prize. His most recent popular science books include Bird Sense: What it’s like to be a Bird (Bloomsbury 2012): http://bird-sense.com/tag/tim-birkhead/ and Ten Thousand Birds: Ornithology since Darwin (Princeton 2014): see Myriadbirds.com. He is currently editing a book on the pioneering seventeenth-century naturalist, Francis Willughby.

To read more about Tim visit his web site: https://www.shef.ac.uk/aps/staff-and-students/acadstaff/birkhead

Living the Dream

Thursday, July 17th, 2014

Guest author: Lisa Bullard

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Growing up, my career ambitions often wavered between detective, spy, and mad scientist. It turns out that writing children’s nonfiction books is a great way to live a little bit of each of those!

Just as a detective would, I start with a basic question that needs to be answered:  How did werewolf mythology develop over the years? Why do we need to protect our planet’s water supply? How is an alligator different from a crocodile? Then I gather as much evidence as I can, trying to find a solution to the mystery in front of me.

And as a writer for kids, I can’t ever forget the young readers that are the point of my information quest. So I also need to take on the role of a spy, gathering critical data about my target audience without being overly obvious about it. I might eavesdrop while driving the carpool for my nephew, take notes from the back of the room during library story hour, or examine the artwork in the hallway when I’m doing a school visit. Any of those activities can help me to understand who my audience really is at heart, and how I need to shape my work to meet their reading and developmental needs.

Then, like a mad scientist, I have to mix together all thehhs elements I’ve gathered to see what bubbles up. I try different combinations—a little more of this, a little less of that—until my creation, often not quite what I expected it to be when I started out, contains some kind of crazy genius. Or short of genius, at least a manuscript that might engage the attention of seven-year-olds!

One of my recent publications demanded that I take on a role that was never one of my childhood goals: accountant. After all, does anybody dream of being an accountant when they’re still a kid? Maybe so, but not me! But in writing Gabriel Gets a Great Deal and five other titles in the “Money Basics” series, I did draw on many of the necessary lessons I’ve learned as a writer—which was, in fact, another one of my childhood ambitions. Just as many writers discover, money management has proven to be a key part of navigating my own freelance career. And I was surprised to discover just how much my career has taught me about handling finances that I could in turn share with young readers. Along with everything else, it seems that a lot of who I am as a person also sneaks its way into my books.

The young readers who make up my audience may have very different dreams than I did as a kid. But if my books help to open up their eyes to the world around them—teaching them to be curious, to stay alert to possibilities, and to try new things until something interesting bubbles up—then I will have been fully successful in realizing my own childhood dreams!

About the author:

Lisa Bullard is the award-winning author of over 70 books for young readers, both fiction and nonfiction titles. Her newest book, Get Started in Writing for Children (due out from McGraw-Hill in late August), is for adults who want to learn how to write for children. Lisa also teaches writing classes and visits schools to talk about the writing process. You can learn more at her website, www.lisabullard.com

The Recall: Tribunal of the People

Monday, July 14th, 2014

Guest Author: Joseph Francis Zimmerman

Joe Zimmerman 012I am a governmental reformer who supports use of direct democracy devices—the recall, the initiative, and the protest referendum—activated by petitions to ensure elected public officers are accountable to the voters. These devices were advocated by populist and progressive reformers in the late 19th century and the early 20th century to enable voters to regain control of state governments and local governments that had been captured by political machines and special interest groups.

The Recall first was adopted by Los Angeles voters in 1902. Currently, the constitutions and statutes in eighteen states authorize voter use of the recall. The participatory device, however, cannot be employed to remove a member of Congress from office unless the United States Constitution is amended to allow such voter removal of a member(s).The Recall

Use the recall by voters in a representative system of government should be a last-resort weapon employed by disgruntled voters only when other avenues for removal of voter dissatisfaction have proved to be of no avail. The need for the recall can be reduced in a state government or a local government by a state statute or a local government ordinance authorizing voters to employ the protest referendum by petition to invalidate state legislative acts and local government ordinances, respectively. Furthermore, voters could be authorized to employ the indirect initiative as a spur to governing bodies to enact into law a bill(s) desired by a majority of the voters.

Open and ethical government is essential for the full and effective functioning of participatory democracy  because of the limited resources possessed by citizens in comparison to the resource of elected and appointed public officers. Open meetings of governing bodies and freedom of information are important components of ethical governance in addition to codes of ethics. The Recall supports the development of an ethos guiding the behavior of elected officers based on the Roman maxim Salus Populi Suprema Lex Est; that is, “Let the welfare of the people be the supreme law.”

About the author:

Joseph Francis Zimmerman is a professor of political science in Rockefeller College of the University of New York at Albany. He was the first chairman of the Section on Representation and Electoral System of the American Political science Association. For additional information on him, kindly visit http://www.albany.edu/

How to Plan Your Story Plot-Get Tips Straight from Laurie Faria Stolarz

Wednesday, July 9th, 2014

Guest Author: Laurie Faria Stolarz

laurieWhen people first begin a story, they usually get inspired by one of two things: Character or Plot.

There’s no one right way. Both approaches have their benefits and drawbacks. I often get e-mail from aspiring writers seeking advice when they’ve hit a roadblock in their works-in-progress. They tell me that they were initially so excited about their stories, but then, when they got to a certain point, they lost steam. When I ask those same people what it is their character wants, what keeps that character from getting it, and what the character needs to learn in order to get it, these writers often don’t have the answers. Perhaps a little plotting is in order. Here in this post, I have provided a few tips that will help you to plot a magnificent story with ease! We’ll discuss more about character in the next post.

1. Come Up With an Idea: You want to figure out the driving force of your story. For example, perhaps you want to write about a girl who drops out of high school to pursue her dream of becoming a Hollywood actress. Or, maybe you prefer writing about a boy who gets involved in a gang and ends up stealing from his own parents.

2. Choose the Basics: You need to select the basics of your character, i.e. gender, age, situation in life, whatever helps you picture them enough to get your plot going. In Blue is for Nightmares, Stacey is a 16-year-old practicing Wiccan at boarding school.

3. Introduce Your Character to an Initial Action/Problem:  This is the first event/ problem in the story that pushes the reader forward. For example, maybe your 15-year-old bully of a character learns that her parents are getting divorced and she’ll have to move and start over at a new school. In Blue is for Nightmares, Stacey starts having nightmares that her roommate is going to be killed within four days’ time.

4. Decide What Your Character Wants:  This drive will influence most if not all of your character’s decisions and actions. It’s yourblue character’s motivation. In Blue is for Nightmares, Stacey wants to save her roommate before it’s too late. She also wants to forgive herself for ignoring nightmares that she had three years ago, because a little girl died as a result.

5. Decide What Keeps Your Character From Getting What She/He Wants:  There are usually one or more obstacles that keep(s) your character from getting what s/he wants. In Blue is for Nightmares, Stacey’s obstacles are many: she fears she won’t be able to stop the killer (self doubt); she has botched spells; she relies too heavily on spells and not enough on herself (lack of confidence); she failed to save someone in the past and fears it will happen again.

6. Have Your Character Learn a Lesson? This lesson is usually a real turning point for your character. Having learned this lesson, they can better achieve what they want. In Blue is for Nightmares, Stacey learns that she is more powerful than her spells, that her spells do indeed aid her, but it’s the will and power inside her that’s most important.

7. Climax – This is usually the highest point of tension in the story, the place where most of your action or drama will take place. This may be the point where your character faces his or her biggest obstacle. In Blue is for Nightmares, Stacey figures out who the killer is and confronts him.

8. Resolution –This is the tying up of loose ends. It’s also where subplots get tied up (note: a subplot is any minor plot in the novel. For example, even though Stacey is trying to save her roommate, she’s also battling the crush she has on her best friend’s boyfriend.) Having stopped the killer and saved her roommate, Stacey now goes away with a healthier sense of self. We also learn whether or not she gets the boy.

 About Author:

 Laurie Faria Stolarz is the author of several popular young adult novels including the Touch series (the latest release of which is Deadly Little Lessons), Project 17, and Bleed, (all published by Disney/Hyperion Books for Children), as well as the bestselling Blue is for Nightmares series (Flux Publications). With more than a million books sold worldwide, Stolarz’s titles have been named on numerous award lists, including the Quick Pick for Reluctant Readers list and the Top Ten Teen Pick list, both through the American Library Association. She is currently working on her new Dark House series, also with Disney/Hyperion Books for Children. The first book in that series, Welcome to the Dark House, will be out in spring 2014. For more information, please visit her Web site at www.lauriestolarz.com.

 

Why I Write Fantasy?

Monday, July 7th, 2014

Guest Author : Suzanne Selfors

picSit back and allow me to take you to the far north, an enchanted land of cedar and huckleberry. Where the salty waters of the Puget Sound caress a log-strewn shore. And where my little island sits beneath a cloud covered sky.

Zoom in now on a house, perched on a high bluff, and a bedroom shared by two pale girls. It’s the 1960s. On my sister’s bedroom wall there’s a poster of Bobby Sherman. On my bedroom wall, a plaque given to me by my third grade teacher. Where there’s a will there’s a way. I inhaled those words every night.

I kept my bedroom window open so I could hear the frogs croaking in the evening and the harbor seals barking in the morning. And I believed, with all my heart, that if I kept the window open, Peter Pan would visit me. Because forget Bobby Sherman, I wanted to visit Never Land.

I believed other things, too. That if I built mermaids out of clamshells, sand dollars and pebbles, when the tide washed them away, they would come to life. And if I made fairy cabins from moss and pinecones, the fairies would come and lived in those houses.

My father, a proud Norwegian, would leave us each summer for the Bering Sea, then return in August with a thick, red summer beard so I hardly recognized him. He’d tell me stories about the ocean, and about Vikings. My mom took me to the library once a week and I’d totter back to the car beneath a pile of books. I always chose stories that took me to faraway places.

To a place where a peach could grow to be the size of a Volkwagon bus. Where a little girl could live with a monkey and a horse but no parents. To a world where a mole lived in tidy little house. To Dictionopolis, Narnia, and Camelot.

These were the years of 3rd, 4th and 5th grade, when the seeds of storytelling took root.

I’ve read hundreds of books in my adult life but they don’t stick. They drift through me like wind. But the stories I read in 4th grade are still fresh. A skinny boy opening a bar of Wonka’s chocolate. A mouse and a toy sailboat in Central Park. A toad and a car that goes “poop-poop.”  4 Suzanne Selfors

Why do I write fantasy? The question should be, why write anything else? Reality? I shudder to think. Because fantasy is built on the premise that I inhaled every single night and still do: Where there’s a will there’s a way. You can inherit a chocolate factory. You can make a happy home in a peach pit. You can pull a sword from a stone and claim your destiny.

Perhaps one of my characters will be cherished by a young reader. My baby mermaid who smells like mud and sings a song of pure, undiluted sadness. My girl who grows mushrooms between her toes and keeps a pet barnacle in a pickle jar on her shelf. My Sasquatch who loves eating chocolate. Perhaps my stories will become part of someone else’s memories.

That, my friends, is the honor of my life. A storyteller could ask for nothing more.

About Author:

Suzanne is the author of eleven books for kids and teens. Her books have appeared on numerous lists including the Indie Next List, they’ve earned starred reviews and Junior Library Guild awards, and have appeared on many state reading lists. She’s currently at work on book 5 in the Imaginary Veterinary Series. She earned her BA at Occidental College and her MA at the University of WA. She lives in the Pacific NW with her family. To know more about Suzanne, please visit her website: http://www.suzanneselfors.com

Opposites Attract, and Then They Drive Each Other Mad

Wednesday, July 2nd, 2014

Guest Author: Trevor Michael Silvester

Trevor b-wWriting a book on relationships is weird when you’re in a relationship, because suddenly everything your partner does seems to become material. I had to work really hard to not write a book that was simply called ‘My Weird Wife!’ Because, the thing is, everyone who isn’t like you is at least a bit odd, aren’t they?

I’ve been a relationship coach for a lot of years, and I’ve seen how particular ‘oddnesses’ which often go unidentified, emerge as the critical reasons why  the sad and often desperate couples who come to see me, find they love each other, but are unable to live together happily. And that was my experience too until I learned the things that I wrote about in Lovebirds.

Ok, first about the title. I didn’t want to pontificate, or drone on, or preach. I wanted to make you smile about the things you sometimes throw stuff at your partner for. So I needed something a little cute. My original idea was to call it Talking from Uranus, because I disagreed with the notion that Men are from Mars i.e. that gender was the defining difference that caused relationship problems. I had plenty of gay couples as clients, moaning about the same oddnesses as straight couples. I thought of having ‘aliens’ like Vulcans and Wookies as the character types I was going to describe. For some strange reason publishers didn’t bite. Go figure.

So one day I was walking my dogs and I saw a robin singing its heart out in coverthe same tree as a dove. And birds never date outside of their type, do they? But what if the robin really fancied the dove, and was just doing what robins do to show it – sing? And what if the dove might have found the robin kinda cute, but waited for how doves express love – with a cuddle on the same branch? And it went from there. Eight bird types, each one describing a set of preferences for how people behave in relationships, what they like and don’t like, and what they need to know they’re loved.

Let me give an example. Four of the types belong to the ground bird group, and the other four are sky birds. This one difference is probably the cause of more breakups than any other, in my opinion. Ground birds have rules. They’re important to them, and a partner contravening them is the same as saying “I don’t care about you.” They like detail, and make decisions based on evidence. Sky birds don’t notice rules much, and go with their intuition. My wife is a ground bird. I am not. So I discovered that when she corrected everything I hung on the washing line, it was to improve me as a husband, not because she was a washing Nazi. That when she shot down my bright ideas with the shotgun of practicality, she wasn’t trying to stifle my creativity, it was for my own good. By talking about these things, and her realising that me saying ‘good’ to ‘how was your day’ isn’t me hiding something, it’s a full and complete answer, and that when I say I want to buy a boat and start trawling the internet for possible, I’m just having fun and probably won’t sell the house without proper consultation, means that now our different ways of seeing the world can be used to enrich us, not drive us apart. Most days.

Opposites do attract, and they can then drive each other mad. The same oddnesses can often have the same effect. There is a way to avoid that and make what you currently row about a source of strength in your relationship. Buy my book.

About Author:

Trevor Michael Silvester is a British therapist and coach. Silvester is best known in the UK as the founder of Cognitive Hypnotherapy and the inventor of the system of hypnotic language known as Wordweaving. He is the Training Director of the Quest Institute, which teaches the approach of Cognitive Hypnotherapy. For more information about him, kindly visit http://www.trevorsilvester.com/

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